Barren Women, Virginity and Proof of Virtue

Brian Kuehmichel
December 1, 2018


Can we discover the general age of Mary at Jesus' birth?



There were two profound things that greatly affected women in the scriptures. One was their marriage and the second was the birth of children. Both of these were the hope and dream of almost every little girl. Their ability to marry was greatly affected by their purity or celibacy prior to marriage. The subsequent birth of children was greatly affected by their ability to conceive. These two were entwined in the scriptures in unique ways. These will be examined and from this the question arose, How do we know if Mary was a common young virgin versus an uncommon older virgin? The general age of Mary at Jesus' birth can be discovered.

The scripture term "barren"

The biblical term "was barren" was used of: Sarai in Genesis 11:30; Rebekah in Genesis 25:21; Rachel in Genesis 29:31; Manoah's wife in Judges 13:2; and Elisabeth in Luke 1:7, 36. Its meaning was established when it was used in Genesis 11:30 "But Sarai was barren; she had no child." Barren was implied in the context of Hannah, "the Lord had shut up her womb" (1Sam 1:5) and Hannah described herself "the barren" in her prayer of 1 Samuel 2:5. It was also explained as a consequence to Michal's actions in 2 Samuel 6:20-23. To be barren generally meant that about 20 or more years of marriage went by and no birth of children occurred.

Sarai / Sarah

Genesis 11:29-31 "29And Abram and Nahor took them wives: the name of Abram's wife was Sarai; and the name of Nahor's wife, Milcah, the daughter of Haran, the father of Milcah, and the father of Iscah. 30But Sarai was barren; she had no child. 31And Terah took Abram his son, and Lot the son of Haran his son's son, and Sarai his daughter in law, his son Abram's wife; and they went forth with them from Ur of the Chaldees, to go into the land of Canaan; and they came unto Haran, and dwelt there." [emphasis mine]

Rebekah

Genesis 24:15-16 "And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up."

Genesis 25:20-22, 26 "20And Isaac was forty years old when he took Rebekah to wife, the daughter of Bethuel the Syrian of Padanaram, the sister to Laban the Syrian. 21And Isaac intreated the Lord for his wife, because she was barren: and the Lord was intreated of him, and Rebekah his wife conceived. 22And the children struggled together within her; and she said, If it be so, why am I thus? And she went to enquire of the Lord. ... 26And after that came his brother out, and his hand took hold on Esau's heel; and his name was called Jacob: and Isaac was threescore years old when she bare them." [emphasis mine] Note that Isaac married Rebekah at age forty and Rebekah was called barren before she bore Esau and Jacob twenty years later when Isaac was sixty years of age.

Rachel

Genesis 29:31 "And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren." [emphasis mine]

Manoah's wife

Judges 13:2-3 "And there was a certain man of Zorah, of the family of the Danites, whose name was Manoah; and his wife was barren, and bare not. And the angel of the Lord appeared unto the woman, and said unto her, Behold now, thou art barren, and bearest not: but thou shalt conceive, and bear a son." [emphasis mine]

Hannah

1 Samuel 1:5 "But unto Hannah he gave a worthy portion; for he loved Hannah: but the Lord had shut up her womb." [emphasis mine]

1 Samuel 1:2, 5 "2And Hannah prayed, and said, My heart rejoiceth in the Lord, mine horn is exalted in the Lord: my mouth is enlarged over mine enemies; because I rejoice in thy salvation. ... 5They that were full have hired out themselves for bread; and they that were hungry ceased: so that the barren hath born seven; and she that hath many children is waxed feeble." [emphasis mine]

Michal

2 Samuel 6:20-23 "20Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself! 21And David said unto Michal, It was before the Lord, which chose me before thy father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the Lord, over Israel: therefore will I play before the Lord. 22And I will yet be more vile than thus, and will be base in mine own sight: and of the maidservants which thou hast spoken of, of them shall I be had in honour. 23Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no child unto the day of her death." [emphasis mine]

Elisabeth

Luke 1:7 "And they had no child, because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years." [emphasis mine]


Barren women in the scriptures

The only place in the Old Testament that gave a length of time to the scripture term "barren" was Genesis 25:20-22 and 26. Since Rebekah was without child from marriage when Isaac was forty and she birthed fraternal twin sons when he was sixty years of age this gave us twenty years until the birth of children. Thus the scripture term "barren" was connected to a duration of about twenty years without any children. A long time without children was certainly meant with Sarai in Genesis 11:30, "But Sarai was barren; she had no child" since she birthed her only son at age ninety (Gen 17:17). This was reinforced in the New Testament when Zacharias and Elisabeth were described in Luke 1:7, "And they had no child, because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years."

Rachel was described as barren for perhaps a shorter duration in Genesis 29:31, "And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren." Jacob had served seven years before he received Laban's daughter as a wife (Ge 29:20-21). Through Laban's deception Jacob was given Leah first, after one more week (seven days) he was given Rachel, and then Jacob served seven more years for her again (Ge 29:20, 27-28). After Joseph was born and Jacob expressed he wanted to depart to Isaac, Laban urged him to stay (Gen 30:27-43). Then Laban negotiated for Jacob to remain in Haran and he served Laban for six more years for livestock (Ge 31:41), "Thus have I been twenty years in thy house; I served thee fourteen years for thy two daughters, and six years for thy cattle: and thou hast changed my wages ten times." Joseph was born at the end of the second seven year period and six more years transpired before leaving Haran. [7 + 7 + 6 = 20]

Thus Rachel was described as barren up to Joseph's birth. This implied that she was at least thirty years old or more at marriage, thirty-seven or more when Joseph was born and thus twenty years past the beginning of marriageable age, the common age to begin child-bearing. This would be consistent with the connection between "twenty years" and "barren." Jacob was seventy-seven* years old at the beginning of those twenty years with Laban and thus it was quite probable that Leah and Rachel were in their thirties, or forties, and even possibly early fifties at their marriages. Remember that their common life spans were longer at that time period since Rebekah's nurse lived to around 140 years (Ge 35:8). [Deborah was about thirteen when given to Rebekah, plus twenty years to Jacob was born, plus she died after Dinah's bad experience at Shechem (Ge 34:1-31) when Jacob was about 106 (~13 + 20 + ~106 = ~139).]

[* Jacob was born when Isaac was sixty years of age (Ge 25:24-26) and Abraham was 160 years old (Ge 21:1-5). When Esau and Jacob were fifteen years old Abraham died at 175. When Jacob was seventy-six to seventy-seven he obtained Isaac's blessing by subterfuge and Esau threatened Jacob's life (Ge 27:5-41). Then with approval of Isaac and Rebekah Jacob fled north to Haran to preserve his life and seek a suitable wife (Ge 28:1-7; 31:41; 30:25-ch31). Jacob at seventy-seven began to serve Laban in Haran for twenty years (Ge 31:41). He served for seven years and received Leah, served seven more years for Rachel, and then served six more years for cattle and flocks (Ge 31:41). After the first seven years Jacob (age eighty-four) received his cousin Leah as a wife (Ge 29:18-26), then after seven more days received his cousin Rachel as a wife (Ge 29:27-30). During the second set of seven years of service to Laban and with Bilhah and Zilpah as additional wives Jacob had eleven sons including Joseph when Jacob went from eighty-four to ninety-one years of age.

Joseph was born when Jacob was ninety-one years old. This was not directly stated but was calculated by noting that Jacob in Genesis 47:9 was 130 years old when Joseph presented him before Pharaoh in Egypt. At that moment Joseph was thirty-nine years old. Joseph was thirty years of age when presented before the Pharaoh and made ruler (Ge 41:14-46). Then he went through seven years of plenty (Ge 41:29-30) and two years of famine to get to thirty-nine years of age (Ge 45:6, 11). Thus age 130 minus thirty-nine equaled nintey-one for Jacob's age at Joseph's birth. [130 - 39 = 91] Jacob at age seventy-seven began to serve Laban, add fourteen years service and arrive at age ninety-one at Joseph's birth. Add about fifteen more years to Dinah's experience.]

Jochebed the mother of Moses

Kohath was expressly stated as having been born and then brought into Egypt (Ge 46:10-12; Ex 1:1-5). Kohath had a son Amram (Num 26:58) at about age fifty who grew and then married Jochebed (Exo 6:20; Num 26:59, his aunt; Kohath's much younger sister and daughter to Levi). Jochebed was explicitly given as Levi's daughter twice (Ex 6:20; Nu 26:59) and this must be taken into account. If Levi had a late aged birth of his daughter she would be the right age for marriage with his grandson Amram, but she also must fit with the three births of Miriam, Aaron and Moses. Thus Levi at about ninety-three years of age had a late aged birth of Jochebed. This would make her about eight years younger than Amram (age ninety-four) when Moses was born. Jochebed would have been about eighty-six years old with an expected lifespan of 122 or more years. Thus much later in life Jochebed and Amram had their three offspring, Miriam, Aaron and Moses, with Aaron born three years before Moses (Exo 7:7). These facts are consistent with Psalm 105:37 where it says, "... and there was not one feeble person among their tribes." This suggested that Jochebed was barren for far more than twenty years.

Hannah

She was described by a very direct expression in 1 Samuel 1:5, "the Lord had shut up her womb." The time duration was somewhat long as expressed by the words "And as he did so year by year, when she went up to the house of the Lord, so she provoked her; therefore she wept, and did not eat." And again, "wherefore it came to pass" from verse twenty. Because she had waited a long time she also gave her son to the Lord for a long time, "For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me my petition which I asked of him: Therefore also I have lent him to the Lord; as long as he liveth he shall be lent to the Lord." (1Sam 1:27-28) This was followed by her prayer in chapter 2, "... so that the barren hath born seven; and she that hath many children is waxed feeble."

Manoah's wife

Judges 13:2 said she was "barren, and bare not." No other age information was given in the account.

Jonathan's wife

Saul was about age eighteen to twenty-one for Jonathan's birth, plus two years reign with Jonathan then at least twenty or more, made about thirty-eight to forty-one years for Saul at the end of the second year (1Sam 13:1-2). With Saul at thirty-nine, or in his fortieth year, when he started to reign for forty years (2Sam 2:8-10) Jonathan must have been at least twenty years of age after the second year of Saul and even older when he commanded a garrison of one thousand soldiers (1Sam 13:1-2). David was born when Saul was about forty-nine years of age. This made Jonathan about fifty-eight (or up to three years older if born earlier) at his death (79 - 21 = 58) and about twenty-eight or more years difference between Jonathan and David.

If Jonathan had been very busy with military conflicts and matters of civic service to his father Saul he may not have married earlier. At some point Jonathan married, but he and his wife were barren of children until shortly before his death. This could be another circumstance where an aged mother in Israel had a child under the Lord's blessing. Jonathan was about fifty-eight when he died and thus about fifty-three for the birth of his son (2Sam 4:4). If he was married around his twenties this would make his wife "barren" in scripture terms for twenty-five or more years. If Jonathan married at a later time he could have been up to around fifty-two to fifty-three years of age. Jonathan has only one son as stated in scripture. Mephibosheth was introduced in 2 Samuel 4:4, "And Jonathan, Saul's son, had a son that was lame of his feet. He was five years old when the tidings came of Saul and Jonathan out of Jezreel, and his nurse took him up, and fled: and it came to pass, as she made haste to flee, that he fell, and became lame. And his name was Mephibosheth."

Shunammite woman

She was introduced in 2 Kings chapter 4 as a person who sought to serve God's prophet Elisha. Even though the scriptures did not directly give a statement about barren it confirmed she was childless and her husband was old. She was the second woman to receive the same son twice, once by birth and again by an awakening from death (2Kgs 4:32-37, the first was in 1Kgs 17:17-24). Both of these women were a preview of Mary with Jesus' resurrection.

"14And he said, What then is to be done for her? And Gehazi answered, Verily she hath no child, and her husband is old. 15And he said, Call her. And when he had called her, she stood in the door. 16And he said, About this season, according to the time of life, thou shalt embrace a son. And she said, Nay, my lord, thou man of God, do not lie unto thine handmaid. 17And the woman conceived, and bare a son at that season that Elisha had said unto her, according to the time of life." (2Kgs 4:14-17)


The scripture term "virgin"

When the scriptures conveyed that a celibate young woman was spoken about the expression "young virgin" was used.

Judges 21:12 "And they found among the inhabitants of Jabeshgilead four hundred young virgins, that had known no man by lying with any male: and they brought them unto the camp to Shiloh, which is in the land of Canaan."

1 Kings 1:2 "Wherefore his servants said unto him, Let there be sought for my lord the king a young virgin: and let her stand before the king, and let her cherish him, and let her lie in thy bosom, that my lord the king may get heat."

Esther 2:2-3 "Then said the king's servants that ministered unto him, Let there be fair young virgins sought for the king: And let the king appoint officers in all the provinces of his kingdom, that they may gather together all the fair young virgins unto Shushan the palace, to the house of the women, unto the custody of Hege the king's chamberlain, keeper of the women; and let their things for purification be given them."

In other places the scriptures used in the same context the expression "damsel" to imply a young virgin woman.

Genesis 24:16 "And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up."

Deuteronomy 22:13-21 "13If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: 15Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: 16And the damsel's father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; 17And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. 18And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him. 19And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days. 20But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: 21Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you."

Deuteronomy 22:23-24 "If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you."

Deuteronomy 22:25-29 "25But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die. 26But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: 27For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her. 28If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days."

When the scriptures conveyed that a celibate woman, without regard to age, was spoken about the expression "virgin" was used.

Genesis 24:43 "Behold, I stand by the well of water; and it shall come to pass, that when the virgin cometh forth to draw water, and I say to her, Give me, I pray thee, a little water of thy pitcher to drink."

Exodus 22:17 "If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins."

Leviticus 21:3 "And for his sister a virgin, that is nigh unto him, which hath had no husband; for her may he be defiled."

Psalm 45:14 "She shall be brought unto the king in raiment of needlework: the virgins her companions that follow her shall be brought unto thee."

Isaiah 7:14 "Therefore the Lord himself shall give you a sign; Behold, a virgin shall conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel."

Luke 1:27 "To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary."

1For the regular Levitical priests there was a specific requirement for marriage. "And the Lord said unto Moses, Speak unto the priests the sons of Aaron, and say unto them, There shall none be defiled for the dead among his people: ... 7They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God." (Lev 21:1, 7)

For the Levitical high priests there was a very stringent requirement for marriage. "And he shall take a wife in her virginity. A widow, or a divorced woman, or profane, or an harlot, these shall he not take: but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife." (Lev 21:13-14


Twenty-two of fifty-three various English translations of Isaiah 7:14 emphasize "the virgin"

Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Listen carefully, the virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and she will call his name Immanuel (God with us). AMP

Therefore, the Lord himself will give you a sign: See, the virgin will conceive, have a son, and name him Immanuel. CSB

Therefore will the Lord himself give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and shall bring forth a son, and call his name Immanuel. Darby

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel. ESV, ESVUK

The Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will be pregnant and will have a son, and she will name him Immanuel. EXB

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and she shall call his name Immanuel. GNV

Therefore, the Lord Himself will give you a sign: The virgin will conceive, have a son, and name him Immanuel. HCSB

But the Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will be pregnant. She will have a son, and she will name him Immanuel. ICB

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Watch! The virgin is conceiving a child, and will give birth to a son, and his name will be called Immanuel. ISV

Therefore the Lord himself shall give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son and shall call his name Immanuel. JUB, NKJV

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Look! the virgin is with child and she is about to give birth to a son, and she shall call his name 'God with us.' LEB

Therefore the Lord Himself shall give you a sign: The virgin shall conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel. MEV

The Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will be pregnant. She will have a son, and she will name him Immanuel. NCV

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and will call him Immanuel. (NIrV®)*, NIV, NIVUK

Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a Son, and shall call His name Immanuel. NKJV

All right then, the Lord himself will give you the sign. Look! The virgin[a] will conceive a child! She will give birth to a son and will call him Immanuel (which means 'God is with us'). NLT

Therefore Adonai Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin[a] will conceive. When she is giving birth to a son, she will call his name Immanuel. TLV

Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Behold, the virgin will conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel. WEB

Therefore the Lord Himself giveth to you a sign, Lo, the Virgin is conceiving, And is bringing forth a son, And hath called his name Immanuel. YLT


The expression "the virgin"

The emphasis of the expression "the virgin" in this many translations highly suggested that there was something unusual about this virgin, different from other virgins. Mary was described before the birth of Jesus in the New Testament accounts of Matthew 1:16-20 and Luke 1:27-56; 2:5-19. In these accounts the virginity of Mary was declared by three different types of expressions. "Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost." (Matt 1:18), "To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary." (Luke 1:27) and "Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?" (Luke 1:34). [emphasis mine]

It was understood, of course, that every baby was born a virgin and that this description remained through their childhood, early years of maturation and into adulthood. This was ordinary unless under malicious circumstances (rape) someone determined to physically altar this status or by consensual agreement (fornication, adultery) it was removed. Then, except for these two situations altering their circumstances, a young, early or later adult was understood to be a virgin when entering marriage. What then made Mary different as a virgin since twenty-two English translations described her as "the virgin" and not just as another generic "virgin"?

If a woman was not young any more and not early in adulthood then there was an increased possibility of premarital sexual intercourse over time. This was the period of Roman rule that was publicly known to have licentious behavior amongst the people. Jesus spoke freely of the same when chiding the chief priests and the elders of the people (Matt 21:23-32), "Whether of them twain did the will of his father? They say unto him, The first. Jesus saith unto them, Verily I say unto you, That the publicans and the harlots go into the kingdom of God before you. For John came unto you in the way of righteousness, and ye believed him not: but the publicans and the harlots believed him: and ye, when ye had seen it, repented not afterward, that ye might believe him." (Matthew 21:31-32)

Again this was understood when Jesus was addressed by the Pharisees, "And it came to pass, as Jesus sat at meat in the house, behold, many publicans and sinners came and sat down with him and his disciples. And when the Pharisees saw it, they said unto his disciples, Why eateth your Master with publicans and sinners? But when Jesus heard that, he said unto them, They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick. But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance." (Matt 9:10-13) The whole chapter of Luke 15 was about the commonness of sin and the rejoicing when someone returned in repentance. Jesus presented this somewhat common mis-conduct when giving a parable, "But as soon as this thy son was come, which hath devoured thy living with harlots, thou hast killed for him the fatted calf." (Luke 15:30). That meant that both men and women were participating in fornication and adultery.


What made Mary "the virgin"?

Therefor the questions: What then made Mary different as a virgin? How do we know if she was a common young virgin versus an uncommon older virgin? What was given in the scriptures to clarify this? Matthew recorded the following.

"18Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. 19Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. 20But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. 21And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name Jesus: for he shall save his people from their sins. 22Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, 23Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us." (Matt 1:18-23)

Here the angel of the Lord supported the position of Mary's celibacy up to this moment in time when addressing Joseph. Matthew further supported this position by continuing with "Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife: And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name Jesus." This information would have been learned from Mary and verified by others in her sphere since Joseph was dead before Jesus gathered disciples. But why specially affirm the reasonably expected youthful purity or celibacy until marriage?

The first and primary answer would be to establish that this promised holy child was not derived by the ordinary human process of male to female genetic transfer through human sexual copulation. The secondary answer, which is emphasized here in five points, was to establish the maturity of Mary as the recipient mother of such a gift (Jn 3:17; Gal 4:4; Heb 1:6; 2:9; 1Jn 4:9-10) from heaven. This maturity of Mary, of course, referred back to the statement of Adam in Genesis 2:21-24 when both Adam and Eve were formed mature.

"21And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

This also referred to the words of Eve when they had later become parents in Genesis 4:1 "I have gotten a man from the Lord."


Luke's careful research

Here are four points from Luke that emphasize Mary's maturity. The fifth point will follow later. Luke opens chapter one with this affirmation of research and integrity of his information.

"1Forasmuch as many have taken in hand to set forth in order a declaration of those things which are most surely believed among us, 2Even as they delivered them unto us, which from the beginning were eyewitnesses, and ministers of the word; 3It seemed good to me also, having had perfect understanding of all things from the very first, to write unto thee in order, most excellent Theophilus, 4That thou mightest know the certainty of those things, wherein thou hast been instructed." (Luke 1:1-4)

1) Luke then proceeded to describe the circumstances of an older woman who was barren in verses 1 through 25. He described Elisabeth by saying, "And they had no child, because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years." (Luke 1:7) Then Luke reported that Zacharias affirmed the same when saying, "And Zacharias said unto the angel, Whereby shall I know this? for I am an old man, and my wife well stricken in years." (Luke 1:18) Luke stated further that there was no child and Elisabeth had borne words of reproach for infertility, "And after those days his wife Elisabeth conceived, and hid herself five months, saying, Thus hath the Lord dealt with me in the days wherein he looked on me, to take away my reproach among men." (Luke 1:24-25) This account conveyed the age of Zacharias to have been 50 years when he finished his formal temple duties (Num 8:23-25, 4:1-49). He and Elisabeth were barren of children since their marriage. Zacharias had married according to Leviticus 21 verses 1 and 7 since he and Elisabeth were described in this manner, "And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless." (Luke 1:6) Since Zacharias and Elisabeth were described as, "righteous before God, walking ... blameless" (Luke 1:6) they would have been a good influence upon Mary for many years.

2) After this Luke described the situation surrounding Mary in Luke 1:26-34.

"26And in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God unto a city of Galilee, named Nazareth, 27To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary. 28And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women. 29And when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and cast in her mind what manner of salutation this should be. 30And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God. 31And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name Jesus. 32He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David: 33And he shall reign over the house of Jacob for ever; and of his kingdom there shall be no end. 34Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?"

Luke further added "And Mary arose in those days, and went into the hill country with haste, into a city of Juda; And entered into the house of Zacharias, and saluted Elisabeth." (Luke 1:39-40) Noting the licentious behavior detailed above it was highly unlikely that Mary, as a damsel—a young virgin, went alone into the hill country to visit Elizabeth and Zacharias. She would have been an easy target. But as a mature woman she would have been more secure in that travel.

3) Mary was understood to have been a person of virtue for the Lord to select her to be his maternal host. She should have been able to be described by words parallel to the words used about Zacharias and Elisabeth, "righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless. This could not be true if Mary at the age of thirteen or fourteen years had just begun the age of puberty and thus entered under the requirements of the Mosaic law covenant. Neither could she validate that she was living righteously before God and man by such a narrow time frame as one to three years. (Even Jesus used 30 years of proof, Lk 3:23, before he began his ministry as the "last Adam", 1Cor 15:22, 45) Note that the message of the angel affirmed her virtue and obedience in Luke 1:28, "And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women."

4) If Mary was not a very young damsel but a mature woman this would help account for the scripture filled declaration from Mary known as the Magnificat. She in her older maturity would have understood the "hope of Israel" and its long term import, have memorized much from the scriptures (the law, prophets and writings), and thus been able to fully articulate those concepts she described by her words in Luke 1:46-55.

"46And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord, 47And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour. 48For he hath regarded the low estate of his handmaiden: for, behold, from henceforth all generations shall call me blessed. 49For he that is mighty hath done to me great things; and holy is his name. 50And his mercy is on them that fear him from generation to generation. 51He hath shewed strength with his arm; he hath scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts. 52He hath put down the mighty from their seats, and exalted them of low degree. 53He hath filled the hungry with good things; and the rich he hath sent empty away. 54He hath helped his servant Israel, in remembrance of his mercy; 55As he spake to our fathers, to Abraham, and to his seed for ever."


Insights

This brought us to an interesting set of parallels — the two births of a savior and aged motherhood. Moses, a savior for natural Israel, was born to an aged woman by a special miracle, similar to that of Sarah (Gen 17), Rebekah (Gen 25:21), Rachel (Gen 30:2, 22), Hannah (1Sam 1), Manoah's wife (Jdg 13), the Shunammite woman (1Kgs 4) and Elizabeth (Luke 1). Jesus, the savior to a greater Israel, was born to a virgin mother by a special miracle of conception. The lives of both infants, Moses and Jesus, were in jeopardy due to edicts from the ruler of their birth lands (Ex 1:16; 2:1-3; Mt 2:13).

Other parallels to note were that Hannah named her child "son of God" (Samuel) and then gave her child to the Lord.1 Hannah then bore other children (1Sam 2:20-22), so did Mary the mother of Jesus (Mk 6:3). Note also the resemblance between Hannah's Song and Mary's Magnificat (1Sam 2:1-10; Lu 1:46-55). Manoah and his aged wife received a son Samson who portrayed the miraculous power and uniqueness of Jesus.2

In each of these cases an aged woman was given a miracle of motherhood. The increased age for Mary brought much greater validation of her celibacy than does the common fourteen to seventeen year-old view. Living honorably with her parents well past the usual marriageable age, thus both unmarried and a virgin, provided much greater proof that she fit the criteria and was "the virgin" prophesied in Isaiah (Mt 1:18-24; Lk 1:26-38). The text in Isaiah 7:14 (AMP) agreed when it stated "... Listen carefully, the [c]virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and she will call his name Immanuel (God with us)." This was not any unmarried young virgin of marriageable age but someone known to be a virgin, proven by years in the same way that "barren" was proven by years. [c. See notes in AMP]

5) The fifth point is that this betrothed couple, somewhat older in years before marriage, also fit well with Joseph's death before Jesus began his ministry. The eldest son then assumed the duties of protection, care and provision for his widowed mother (Ex 20:12; De 5:16; Mt 15:4; 19:19; Lk 18:20; etc.). This requirement fell to Jesus. Since there were other sons, "James and Joses, and Simon, and Judas" (Mt 13:55; Mk 6:3), they would have been bound, in turn, to assume care for Mary upon Jesus' death. Why then did Jesus request of Apostle John to be His substitute caregiver to Mary?

The Roman process of cucifixion was a very public event intended to warn against and deter lawlessness amongst the subjugated territories of Rome. It was carried out in an open, accessible, and very public area with visibility intended to broadcast obedience to Roman rule. Every word and action during cucifixion was public and observable by any directly interested person or by those passing by. When Jesus spoke to Mary to live under the care of John and for John to receive Mary it was a removal of the care for His mother from the household of unbelief of His siblings and a transfer of Mary's care into the household of faith in Jesus as Lord. Jesus at this event and in this manner established the template for caring for believing widows. "When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home." (Jn 19:26-27)

Even though Jesus was fulfilling the very same commandment he had written upon stone tablets for Moses, "honor your father and your mother" (Ex 20:12; 31:18) there was more to be grasped. This request was a subtle form of substitution, "I will lay down my life for you, you will lay down your life for her." By this special interchange with John, Jesus had removed Mary from the exclusive care of her natural sons and entered her into the roll of care for qualifying widows by his disciples. This fulfilled these and other scriptures.

Exodus 22:22 Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child.

Deuteronomy 10:18 He doth execute the judgment of the fatherless and widow, and loveth the stranger, in giving him food and raiment.

Deuteronomy 14:29 And the Levite, (because he hath no part nor inheritance with thee,) and the stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, which are within thy gates, shall come, and shall eat and be satisfied; that the Lord thy God may bless thee in all the work of thine hand which thou doest.

Deuteronomy 16:11 And thou shalt rejoice before the Lord thy God, thou, and thy son, and thy daughter, and thy manservant, and thy maidservant, and the Levite that is within thy gates, and the stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, that are among you, in the place which the Lord thy God hath chosen to place his name there.

Deuteronomy 16:14 And thou shalt rejoice in thy feast, thou, and thy son, and thy daughter, and thy manservant, and thy maidservant, and the Levite, the stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, that are within thy gates.

Deuteronomy 24:17 Thou shalt not pervert the judgment of the stranger, nor of the fatherless; nor take a widow's raiment to pledge.

Deuteronomy 24:19-21 19When thou cuttest down thine harvest in thy field, and hast forgot a sheaf in the field, thou shalt not go again to fetch it: it shall be for the stranger, for the fatherless, and for the widow: that the Lord thy God may bless thee in all the work of thine hands. 20When thou beatest thine olive tree, thou shalt not go over the boughs again: it shall be for the stranger, for the fatherless, and for the widow. 21When thou gatherest the grapes of thy vineyard, thou shalt not glean it afterward: it shall be for the stranger, for the fatherless, and for the widow.

Deuteronomy 26:12 When thou hast made an end of tithing all the tithes of thine increase the third year, which is the year of tithing, and hast given it unto the Levite, the stranger, the fatherless, and the widow, that they may eat within thy gates, and be filled.

Deuteronomy 26:13 Then thou shalt say before the Lord thy God, I have brought away the hallowed things out of mine house, and also have given them unto the Levite, and unto the stranger, to the fatherless, and to the widow, according to all thy commandments which thou hast commanded me: I have not transgressed thy commandments, neither have I forgotten them.

Jeremiah 22:3 Thus saith the Lord; Execute ye judgment and righteousness, and deliver the spoiled out of the hand of the oppressor: and do no wrong, do no violence to the stranger, the fatherless, nor the widow, neither shed innocent blood in this place.


Conclusion

Sarah's advanced age for the birth of Isaac, a preview of Christ, and Jochebed's advanced age as mother to Moses, the first savior of Israel and preview of Christ, may well point toward Mary's increased age as the earthly mother of the greater Savior. The same would have been true much later of Hannah who finally conceived and birthed Samuel, a preview of Christ whose name means "son of God." The same increased age was true for Manoah's wife who was barren before she birthed Samson.

Start at twenty-seven years of age for Mary at the birth of Jesus. Add Jesus' thirty years of age (Lk 3:23) to begin his ministry, add three and one-half years of ministry3 and reach sixty years of age for Mary at the cross of Jesus. [27 + 30 + 3.5 = >60] The disciple John assuming care of Mary fit entirely into James 1:27, "Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."

Then Mary at twenty-seven or more years of age at Jesus' birth would certainly align with 1 Timothy 5:9 where Apostle Paul restated and followed Jesus' example with Mary and Mary's example of conduct. "Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man. Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work." And Mary's age of sixty years prevented the application of 1 Timothy 5:11-14, "But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully."

These facts about barren, virgin, widow and about Mary herself show that it was much more credible that Mary was neither very young, nor a damsel, but a mature woman who had proven her integrity. She would have conducted herself faithfully before God and man just like Zacharias and Elisabeth were described in Luke 1:6. This would have been done over many years both before and while she was betrothed to Joseph. This longer period of time provided much greater proof than merely reaching the early age of marriage. So much so that she was known as virtuous and celibate as recorded in the New Testament accounts of Matthew 1:16-23 and Luke 1:27-56; 2:5-19. Thus she fit the criteria of "the virgin" as prophesied in Isaiah 7:14, "a mother in Israel" as described in Judges 5:7 and 2 Samuel 20:18-22, and of the aged "widow" as described in 1 Timothy 5:9-10. Just like the angel said, "Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women." (Luke 1:28)


Notes

1. Samuel Previews Christ

2. Samson Previews Christ

3. What was the length of Jesus' public ministry?

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